I guess what I mean by the title of this is that I want to tell you about the very few things in your life that will remain constant from the moment you were born through your whole life. It's not a long list so don't worry. Pretty much everything in life changes in some form or another. There's a Buddhist philosophy that basically says the only thing that doesn't change is that things are always changing. And in most contexts they are. But not all of them. There are some things that you can count on no matter what. The first thing that is probably going to be the most impactful in your life is the fact that you and your sister Lili will always be siblings, you'll always be family no matter what that will never change. It will never change that you were there from the first moment of her life and you were too young to remember life without her, as brief as that was anyway. My hope for you is that you two will remain the indivisible team you appear to be today despite your few squabbles here and there. But how the two of you treat each other, respect each other, support each other, and have each other's backs (or not) will determine if that remains the case. You two have a really good advantage in your lives because you have each other, you're pretty close in age so there isn't a generational gap that complicates things, so that you are able to provide some context or dose of reality in a way that someone only there since day one can do. Others can come exceptionally close and in the most rare of cases an equivalent sibling level is found in someone else on this planet that you're not genetically related to, like how Aunt Emily is to me because we've known each other since before we can remember and have been through many ups and downs. It's a rare thing to have someone like that in your life, and I try to remind myself that I'm pretty lucky to have Aunt Emily in my life and for that matter, in yours as your god-mom. However that doesn't mean that the relationship between you two doesn't require the same level of loyalty (if not more) that you require of your closest chosen friends. If anything the bar is higher for her with you, and higher for you with her because you two have never known life without each other and because of that there's an implication that you two are supposed to be an undividable team. I hope you two protect that because just as there are few things more sacred than a sibling bond, there's very few things that sting as much as having your trust broken with your teammate. It takes a long time to be repaired, if it's even possible so take my advice and just don't even go down that road in the first place, don't risk it. Whatever it is isn't worth it, that would be my guess but if I'm wrong then I hope you're right because that's a pretty impactful fork in the road.
Another thing that will never change is kind of a larger picture of what I just talked about in the sense that Lili, your dad, and myself will always be your family and Lili can speak for herself when she masters the English language but I know that nothing will change how much we love you and that there is nothing you can do on this planet that will make your dad or I love you any less. Not one thing on this planet. Of that I know to be true without reservation. There is no end of the earth that I will not go to if you need me to. There's no sacrifice your dad won't make to ensure that he gives you the best that he possibly can. Don't take this to mean we're going to do whatever you want us to do all the time, oh no no no. I'm talking about big picture stuff, what actually benefits you versus what you want in the moment. That part sucks I know but if we did that we'd actually be screwing you over more because you wouldn't be able to do anything on your own because you wouldn't know how. So these things, the relationship you have with Lili, your dad and I, these things are indivisible, unchangeable only if those involved let them be by their own actions, for better or worse. If you treasure that relationship with Lili, only good things will come, I promise you. And I'll be saying the same thing to her and her job as your sister. I love you baby boy -
